As a neurodiverse queer person, as far as I can tell, those jokes have little do to with LGBTQ issues - and as far as I'm concerned, its people being a dick and not being rightly called out for it - friends don't let friends be assholes - coworkers don't let coworkers be assholes, you don't need 8 letter acronyms to do that.
It's people playing the "I'm not touching you game" then getting surprised when they get bit in the ass for their constant assholery.
I'm in the middle of this issue, On one side (right), I have a camp of raging assholes who wants to push the line as to what's acceptable, they know they're playing the performative asshole game - its just edgy internet bullshit.
On the other (left), I have another side who keeps moving the line on what isn't acceptable and has now demonized innocent mistakes (intent no longer matters, just the feeling of 'harm' among the aggrieved), and stuff that probably isn't offensive, and now often white knights for people they do not know, who are not there, and may not actually be offended themselves.
Neither of these extremes make finding any sort of reasonable standard of decorum terribly easy for what its worth, as both sides tend to be fundamentally unreasonable and absolutist in their interpretation and application. Both have figured out they can demand some sort of kabuki theatre 'accountability' when they feel their 'rules' have been transgressed - and its a big pile of BS in the end - and helps no one, and ends up adding a big pile of stress to everyone but the people who are yelling loudly.
It's people playing the "I'm not touching you game" then getting surprised when they get bit in the ass for their constant assholery.
I'm in the middle of this issue, On one side (right), I have a camp of raging assholes who wants to push the line as to what's acceptable, they know they're playing the performative asshole game - its just edgy internet bullshit.
On the other (left), I have another side who keeps moving the line on what isn't acceptable and has now demonized innocent mistakes (intent no longer matters, just the feeling of 'harm' among the aggrieved), and stuff that probably isn't offensive, and now often white knights for people they do not know, who are not there, and may not actually be offended themselves.
Neither of these extremes make finding any sort of reasonable standard of decorum terribly easy for what its worth, as both sides tend to be fundamentally unreasonable and absolutist in their interpretation and application. Both have figured out they can demand some sort of kabuki theatre 'accountability' when they feel their 'rules' have been transgressed - and its a big pile of BS in the end - and helps no one, and ends up adding a big pile of stress to everyone but the people who are yelling loudly.