I can not comment on specific events, is a really good expression. Even if you give a detailed explanation chances are I am going to see too many holes in it, just by coming from a different perspective. I've been a techbro at times, even though I'm a convinced feminist, but I also like to hear when my action are experienced that way. So I should not comment on your situation, I can just say that there are examples where complaints about that should at least taken lightly.